I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, the key to a happy marriage is communication. There are few that will argue against the fact that open and honest communication is the bond that holds people together long-term.
The ability to communicate in a relationship takes hard work and effort from both parties – male and female – because we know that men and women communicate very differently.
Today, I’m reaching out to all my male readers to help you learn how to better communicate with the with the women in your life. My goal is to show you how to talk to us in a way that actually resonates with us, instead of in a way that makes us defensive.
Keep reading to find out how to ensure that the next female you speak to will actually hear and understand what you are trying to say.
Tip One: Become an Active Listener
There are often times when I’m talking to the hubs and he’s standing there wondering “When will she stop and is there a point to this?” And, I’m sure there are a lot of other men who do as well. We get it men; we really do, but pause for a minute to just let her speak. Sometimes women just want their man to be an active listener. Actually, listen – really listen – to what we’re telling you. Because, odds are, we’re telling you because it’s important to us. Being an active listener means listening and responding in a way that focuses the attention on the speaker – regardless of how you feel about the topic of conversation.
Tip Two: Know What to Say
This part is a bit trickier. Fair or not, sometimes we’re just waiting for you to say just the right words. Men often struggle with what to say because your brains are wired completely different. If you want to keep your woman happy, you’ll need to learn what to say, when to say it, and what tone to use when you do. Luckily, if you’ve been with her long, this will be easier for you. If you’re new to the relationship, you’ll just have to learn by trial and error – or, just ask her. If you have one, you can use your intuitive side to determine the best way to respond.
Tip Three: Focus on Her Body Language
You can read women like a book – if you know what you’re looking for. Knowing how to read body language is one of the most important things you can learn. If you do nothing else while being an active listener and learning to respond appropriately, remember to watch for signs that indicate she’s waiting on a response. You can tell a lot by a women’s body language. You can tell when we’re angry, and when we’re happy or sad. Learn what your woman’s “tells” are so you’ll know exactly what she’s feeling and don’t make the mistake of saying something that makes the situation worse.
I hope you liked my quick and dirty guide on how to better communicate with the women in your life. We’re really easy to understand if you only you take the time to really listen to what we’re saying to you. Whatever you to, don’t wait until she’s no longer communicating to try to fix things. By then, it’s probably too late.
Guys, how would you rate your male-to-female communication skills on a scale of 1 – 10? Let me know in the comments section below.
Also, let me know if you want me to do a female-to-male communication post with the hubs.