When you are building a relationship with someone, you want it to be long lasting and full of mutual respect and love for one another. Sometimes outside forces may work to tear down your relationship – some intentionally, some not. Fortunately, there are ways to combat it and work on building and maintaining a strong relationship.
Separate Facts from Feelings: Feelings are probably the number one thing that breaks down the bond between two people in love. The key to building a stronger relationship with your significant other is to learn how to separate facts from feelings. Learn that when a situation is getting making you upset or angry, step away from it for a bit so you can think calmly and rationally. Learn to get past that initial knee-jerk emotional response – without speaking in anger. Once you’ve done that and taken the time to think about the facts, you’ll be able to have an actual conversation with each other which will help in attaining a stronger relationship.
Learn to Accept Imperfections: Nobody’s perfect. And, no two people in this world are completely, 100% “made for each other.” While you may believe in your partner is “the one” or your “soul mate,” they still may have some imperfections that bother you. Learn to have compassion for your partner’s imperfections. Be okay with their little flaws – meaning the little flaws that you can live with, not the big red flags that say run away fast. Whether you want to admit it or not, you probably have your own set of flaws that them your partner. You should both work on accepting them in each other because the wonderfulness of a strong and loving relationship is so much more important than any imperfections either of you may have. Remember, love them for their imperfections, not in spite of them.
Ask Questions, Don’t Assume: In my opinion, this is the number one factor that kills relationships. Assuming too much and not asking enough questions. Talk to each other for goodness sake. If your partner is doing something that makes you wonder if they still are in love with you or not, then just ask. Heck, maybe they had a bad day or are stressing about something totally unrelated to your relationship. We are only human and while your partner’s actions may speak volumes to you, they probably had no intention of hurting your feelings. Stop assuming and just ask. You know that old adage, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me?” Well, don’t be an ass. And, don’t make an ass out of your significant other either.
Building and maintaining a strong relationship takes work and dedication. It’s important to remember why you’re together in the first place and what made you fall in love.
What do you and your significant other do to make sure your relationship stays strong? Let us know in the comments section below.